DEAR DEIDRE: MY colleague is blackmailing me for a salary raise or she’s going to tell my wife about our affair.
It’s my own stupid fault. I’m 35 and own a car hire franchise. I employ five staff.
We have a receptionist who is 28. She’s pretty, confident and popular with customers.
One day she told me her sex life was rubbish. Her boyfriend is 30 and apparently, he’s uptight and unadventurous. He’ll never give her oral sex.
I’ve got a high sex drive – higher than my wife’s anyway. She’s a stay-at-home mum with our son of four and daughter of 18 months. She’s regularly shattered so sex is low on her agenda.
I agreed with my receptionist that we could help one another so long as it was only oral. That way it wouldn’t be proper cheating.
We got together when everyone had gone home one night. It was amazing. Seeing her orgasm that way, gave me the biggest turn-on.
Now she’s started coming up behind me at work and touching me. She followed me to my car and insisted I go down on her there.
It was exciting to begin with but I’ve started to feel like I’m playing with fire.
She’s now asking me for more pay and when I said I wasn’t sure if the business could run to that she said, “I could always call your wife.”
Last week she phoned me during the evening when I was at home, she said she needed me to meet her. I made an excuse to my wife and escaped. But I don’t like how needy my receptionist is becoming.
I would like to cool it a bit but she is getting more demanding. I’m worried I’m heading for big trouble.
DEIDRE SAYS: Yes – it sounds like this affair could blow up in your face. You are cheating no matter which way you try to cut it.
Find a time to talk to your lover alone and tell her that this has to stop.
Explain that it’s been fun but you both have to be professional and being unfaithful isn’t helping either of your relationships.
Blackmailing you for more money is illegal so this has to stop too.
My support pack called Standing Up For Yourself will help you to be firm and clear with her and if there’s any chance that she’ll tell your wife, get there first and confess and let’s hope she finds a way to forgive you.
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